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When I was 16 years old, the former couple Ana Baquedano He shared a photo of her naked without her consent.

"It was after my graduation when a friend told me, to whom did you send a picture of you nude?" I told her and she told me that there were people who were sharing her, I felt that all my fears were coming true ", the young Mexican tells the BBC.

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In a short time, that image went viral and Baquedano He fell prey to shame and guilt. She came to feel that this image haunted her wherever she went and that it was impossible to escape from the looks and offensive comments about her.

Years later, Baquedano He confronts that situation in a different way.

Despite the social pressure and the stigma associated with this type of images, the young woman, currently a psychology student, managed to overcome her own fears and became an activist against pornography revenge and in defense of the victims.

His campaign against this practice prompted a law in the Mexican state of Yucatán – of which Baquedano is native – that was approved last May and that contemplates prison sentences for those who divulge or threaten to spread erotic, sexual or pornographic images obtained with or without the consent of another person.

In addition to Yucatán, other Mexican states such as the State of Mexico, Chihuahua, Jalisco, Querétaro and Puebla have similar legislation.

The road to here, however, was not easy. Baquedano told the BBC radio program Outlook how he discovered that he was a victim of porn revenge and how he changed his attitude towards this phenomenon.

Fear after the rupture

"We were very close, we went to parties, to birthdays … I knew him since we were kids and somehow we understood and supported each other, in that sense it was a beautiful relationship", remember.

At one point in that relationship, she and her partner shared photos of erotic content with the agreement to delete them after receiving them.

"It was a naked selfie from the waist up where it looks very clear that it's me", He says. And she adds that she fulfilled that same day with her part of the agreement.

When they later broke their relationship, Baquedano he discovered that his former partner had not erased that image.

"He was very angry and I remember that I started thinking that maybe he had not deleted the photo, I was not sure and I decided to call him and ask him directly." His reaction was to keep quiet and hang up the phone. I sense so much fear ", he says.

"I wondered what would happen if he decided to share the photo … My family at that time was very conservative and I thought that they would kick me out of the house, that my friends would stop loving me and that they would kick me out of school, I did not tell anyone then. I went through all that alone ", remember.

The "hell of the university"

When in 2013 Baquedano The university started thinking that the gossip and their fears had been left behind. However, the consequences of the publication of her photo accompanied her there.

"A friend came and told me that a girl I had gone to school with had shared the picture, that everyone had her on their phones and that everyone was talking about it, it was brutal and it made me very scared. It still scares me ", account.

"Going to college became hell, it's as if 2,000 people had seen the picture, it was as if they all wanted me to know they had seen it … If I went into the cafeteria there would be silence and people would start There were notes on the walls of the bathrooms, on the class tables, they wrote dirty comments about the photo and about me and about what they wanted to see more ", he adds.

She was recognized even while on vacation on the island of Holbox, in Yucatan, where she had traveled to try to find tranquility and go unnoticed.

"Some people came up to me and said, 'You're the person in the picture, my friend sent it to me …' I was shocked and did not know what to say, my friends did not either, and in the end I said yes, it was the girl in the photo, she laughed and left ", remember.

Radical change of strategy

He says he thought there was no way to escape and decided to change his strategy. Instead of being ashamed and trying to hide his problem, he decided to tell it.

Despite her fears, her mother reacted positively and supported her.

"I decided to be the one to tell my story before people approached me and told me that my picture was circulating there (…) I felt so powerful and happy that I felt the need to tell it … Every time I told it, the History became smaller … ", he says.

Slowly, Baquedano, who became a contributor to an awareness program of the Yucatan government, began to be her who shared her story in public: in schools, newspapers, debates …

"It was difficult, but I realized that if I was going to talk about it and have the privilege of being heard, I had to do it with a lot of responsibility." The first thing was not to direct the shame where it does not belong ", it states.

Fight against a legal vacuum

Her work as an activist allowed her to know the stories of other girls who were going through the same situation as her.

"They came to me and told me that they had tried to denounce their aggressors and the authorities had told them no, that this was not a crime, that it was not a crime", he says.

That legal vacuum is not uncommon. The report on the situation of Latin America in relation to gender-based violence exerted by electronic means, published by the United Nations in November 2017, indicated that in the region "there are no specific laws for this type of violence online and, in general, the victims have to resort to the penal or civil system not always obtaining the adequate answers for the characteristics of this crime ".

In that situation, Baquedano He had the idea of ​​promoting a law that would regulate the unauthorized use of intimate images of other people in his state. To this end, he joined a group of lawyers and continued talking about his case in public.

In May 2018, his work paid off. The bill in which he had been elaborating was approved by the Yucatan Parliament.

The last step

"It was very exciting, it was all green spots on the screen, I started to cry and I could not stop, it was terrible because there were a lot of people in the press taking pictures of me and I kept crying", He says.

The silence of the victims is one of the reasons for not knowing this phenomenon. However, the number of victims increases. In Mexico alone, at least 9 million women were victims of cyberbullying – a type of harassment that includes revenge porn among other types of practices – according to data from the National Institute of Statistics and Geography.

Baquedano he founded Consentimiento Digital A.C., his own association to defend the victims of pornography revenge and to denounce this practice.

At the beginning of 2019 he took another step in the visibility of his story by publishing his nude photo on his own social networks.

"I think the photo means something different to me now. I want people to see that there was a time in my life when they wanted to kill me so that people would not see that image. For me that was worth more than my own life. And I think it's a very powerful message, especially for girls and young guys. I decided to publish the photo and the people reacted in a wonderful way. Many girls who were going through the same felt comforted. I showed that it is not so much that someone sees you naked. It's not life or death"he concludes.

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