Chelsea Handler reflects on what it means to choose not to be a mother.
The talk show host, 47, was joined by Becca Tobin, Jac Vanek and Keltie Knight from lady gang on your podcast Dear Chelsea, through which she and her rotating guests advise callers. This week, a nutritionist called to share that she is struggling with infertility and she knows that she is unlikely to become a mother.
Handler, who is childless by choice, said just because you’re not a parent doesn’t mean you won’t have children in your life.
“I have so much availability not only for my nieces and nephews…but for the other children in the world, because I don’t have my own. If I had mine, it would be all about them,” she explained. “I see it like this: since I don’t have my own children, I can send foreigners to university. I can support children I’ll never meet, in countries I won’t even visit. But I can give a lot because I don’t have my own family and for me that is my goal. I would be a motherfucker. she would be selfish. I would like everything to be perfect for my son and forget about all the other children in the world.
Handler acknowledged her decision not to have children earlier this year, when she responded to Pope Francis by calling life without children “a form of selfishness.” the chelsea lately alum wrote in an Instagram post at the time: “Me: I choose a life without children and I feel fulfilled.”
Handler also opened up about not wanting children on a 2013 episode of The conversation with Amanda de Cadenet.
“I absolutely don’t want to have kids,” she said at the time. “I don’t think she would be a good mother. I don’t want to have a child and be raised by a nanny. I don’t have time to raise a child. Childhood was heartbreaking enough not to do it.” I don’t know if I could handle my own son, especially if I had a daughter, going through what I went through growing up. Not that he’s that traumatic, but in a lot of ways, he is. It was your way.
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