How technology has changed the way we make love


A couple under the duvet. Drawing. – PIXABAY / CREATIVE COMMONS

  • In recent years, mobile phones have been invited to our beds.
  • More and more people would prefer to stop making love rather than stop using their cell phone.
  • But, in the future, technology could instead help us to find a libido.

Sexual robots, dating apps, connected sextoys, holograms spiked with artificial intelligence … More and more technologies are inviting us into our intimacy, and even into our bed, transforming our interactions and even our ways of making love. While
Netflix tickles the fans of Black Mirror by announcing the return of the dystopian series before the end of the year, it is an opportunity to slip under the blanket to observe how new technologies have transformed our (sexual) relationships, and understand what our future relationship will look like.

Accros to the swipe

The screens are the first to have invited us to our bedroom for the best and especially for the worst. According to a study conducted in the United States by SureCall, a mobile phone company, in March 2018, 10% of respondents have already watched their mobile phone for love. In France, a study published by
Bouygues Telecom in February of the same year as part of its first
Observatory of digital practices of the French, nearly one in two French prefers to do without sex rather than their phone. On the other side of the Atlantic, we are looking for
Wikipedia in full frenzy while in France, it is willing to hug to continue surfing the Net. Good delirium.

"The ubiquity of our phones has affected our ability to enter into an intimate relationship," says Polly Rodriguez, co-founder of Unbound, a women's sex toy brand focused on sexual wellness. Some studies on millennials show that this generation does less love than the previous ones. She was presented as hypersexualized because of applications like
Tinder, but in reality people are addicted to swipe (we slide the button to the right or to the left according to what we think of the presented profile) ". They do not love as much as we imagine. This generation has lost the art of communicating, too used to hiding behind a screen.

A quarter of the 30-year-old Japanese are still virgins

And for Polly Rodriguez, Japan is a good example of the drift related to new technologies. According to the National Institute of Population Research in 2015, a quarter of the 30-year-old Japanese are still virgins in Japan. Recently,
Akihiko Kondo, 35, married virtual singer Hatsune Miku in Tokyo. To seal this union, he passed the ring on the finger of a plush of about fifteen centimeters. On the archipelago, marriages with fictitious characters are not isolated cases. Yet technology is not only a hindrance to eroticism, it can also help improve our sexual lives.

"What makes me passionate about new technologies is how to create experiences from data," said Stephanie Alys, co-founder of Mysteryvide, a British manufacturer of sex toys. She would like, eventually, to add sensors to objects that would allow them to spot the excitement and pleasure. By harvesting these data, artificial intelligence can bend to everyone's tastes and even revive the rusty machine.

AI for a tailor-made pleasure

"We live in a world where our days are very stressful. Today, before going to bed, you write a last email, you may be watching a Netflix series, describes the young woman in charge of pleasure-related issues. Imagine, you are entering your room and the light is dimming, your speakers are launching a music that relaxes you and the images on the screen help you create a connection with your partner. All this, tailor-made, obviously.

Connected objects can create sensual atmospheres and boost the libido of the couple when it is the trunk. "Often, a person will take 10 minutes to put in the conditions to make love while the other could put only two minutes," notes Stephanie Alys. By understanding what excites everyone, one light on, the other closed shutters, for example, you can find compromises. That's what technology will do.

If today, screens seem to distance us, tomorrow, the artificial intelligence could, on the contrary, find the means to get closer. Finally, hopefully …

Polly Rodriguez and Stephanie Alys participated in two conferences during the Lisbon Web Summit last November. We jumped on this opportunity to touch them a word about sexuality.


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