IS IT ALWAYS JUSTIFIED TO PREFER YOUR MOTHER?
The criterion of the maternal preference, by virtue of which for equal parenting skills we tend to prefer the mother in the decision on placement of minorsis it always justified? Surely there is that to try to overcome it to give equal dignity both parents are considered right by a large part of public opinion. The bill, however, pursues this end by introducing a series of rigidity that even the insiders worry. It is not said, in fact, that we code one fixed rule according to which "unless otherwise agreed between the parties, must in any case be guaranteed to the offspring the stay of not less than 12 days per month, including overnight stays, with the father and his mother, unless proven and justified risk of injury for the psycho-physical health of the younger son ", is the best way to guarantee the both parents perfect.
A CONTRACTUAL POWER IN THE SEPARATION PROCESS
On the other hand also the rigidity that has been created in our system with the privileged placement of the mother, and which often relegates the father to a marginal role, should be adequately addressed. It is a fact that the bill is opposed above all by the women, which will also be protagonists of Saturday's mobilizations. And it is equally peaceful that, by not complying with the principle of maternal preference, the provision ends up removing some of them contractual power within the separation process. How well they know Divorce lawyersin fact, the economic claims that women can advance there depend largely on the privileged placement of their children among their mothers, a circumstance that has always given them a certain strength.
THE CHILDREN AS A SALARY DEALER
In Italy, on the other hand, often the child care it is delegated to mothers. While in the world of work that has not yet been reached equality which women aspire to. The gap is there, since in our country only 49% of women work, almost always with lower salaries than men, and it is also proposed in case of separation. But to the extent that society goes (or should go) to a family structure in which the tasks are shared, it would not be an outrage if this happens even when a relationship is interrupted. On too many occasions, on the contrary, the children transform themselves in spite of themselves into an instrument of salary claim, with claims that become rewarding for those who implement them within a separation.
IN THE MIRINO OF DDL THE PEREQUATIC CHECK
Together with the maternal preference, the bill aims to fight even the institution ofequalization allowance. The goal is not to cancel it totally, but to make it possible to appeal to it from the judge "where strictly necessary and only in a residual way", as stated in article 11. Normality would then become the direct maintenance of children, both for ordinary and extraordinary expenses, borne by both parents in proportion to the income. If the mother were without income, all expenses would be for the father. But that would no longer correspond to the former partner a figure lump, but would directly pay the living expenses or a sum against invoice.