Olly Murs talks about denying a job at The X Factor and overcoming his fearful demons

Olly Murs talks about denying a job at The X Factor and overcoming his fearful demons

There are many burning questions of our time: Can Theresa May secure a deal through Brexit? How do we prevent our planet from drowning in plastic? And why is Olly Murs still single?

"It's partly my fault, and partly waiting for the right one," he says with a shrug.

    Olly Murs has returned with a whole new take on his fight against his demons

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Olly Murs has returned with a whole new take on his fight against his demons
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"I hope the next person I meet is there right away, moving in the right direction and it feels amazing. That's what I love. Whoever I meet, it will be a moment of us both looking for it.

"I will probably meet her only 50 years old. I will not hunt it – it will happen when it happens. "

He obviously did not live the life of a monk. Come on.

"Yes, I met with people. I'm having fun with the wrong girls until I find the right one. And that will come when I least expect it. "

    After suffering from heartbreak and crippled anxiety, Olly Murs loves life again

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After suffering from heartbreak and crippled anxiety, Olly Murs loves life again

Olly, 34, has been single for three years since she was separated from friend Francesca Thomas in 2015.

The last time we met almost a year ago, he was shocked by the news that she had become engaged to someone else, and though he's in a better headspace now, he still regrets regret over how it ended, and wonders if he could have handled things differently.

"I was a young pop star and what came with it was a lifestyle where I first put myself first. I do not feel that I have mistreated my ex-girlfriend. I treated her really well. It was a good relationship, but my priorities were different than they would be if I were with somebody now.

"I think if I could go back, I would have asked her more first. When I came with her, troublemaker [Olly’s 2012 platinum-selling No.1 single] It had just come out, it was like a sky rocket, and it was selfish of me, but that's how it was. I was on this f ** King rocket and you only have one chance, so you have to go there. "

    Olly Murs admits:

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Olly Murs admits, "I'm having fun with the wrong girls before I find the right ones."
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And now?

"Now I'm at a nice point where I can really appreciate everything around me. I'm really cool I'm in a really good, happy place and I'm a better person. I've learned from a few mistakes I've made, from a few arguments that made me a person. I feel fitter I am stronger. I'm better."

He says he is occasionally dating friends, but he mainly meets through social media or in the evening.

"However, in this country, it's very difficult to meet people who are with you for the right reasons. If they are after money or whatever they are after me, they will quickly realize that it is not the kind of person that I am. So, if that's the kind of individual that they are, it will not be take a long time you will be gone

    Olly Murs, 34, has been single for three years since joining girlfriend Francesca Thomas in 2015

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Olly Murs, 34, has been single for three years since joining girlfriend Francesca Thomas in 2015

"I'd like to think, touch wood, that I'm good at making people talk. They rarely see a story about kissing and narrating or getting girls to work: "I slept with Olly last night, that's what happened." I think I can read the situation pretty well.

He adds: "You want someone who will love you and is there for you through everything. And that's definitely something I've missed a lot since I'm single – with someone nearby. They do not appreciate it until it works. "

It certainly sounds like the last few years have been a real learning curve, a chance to take stock and figure out how to find a balance. Not least in terms of his mental health, with which he wrestled for the first time.

The track Talking To Myself on the new album You Know I Know documents a time when the famous happy-happy Essex boy came to therapy after a suffering.

    Olly Murs was engaged alongside Tom Jones, Will.I.Am and Jennifer Hudson as a mentor on The Voice
Olly Murs was engaged alongside Tom Jones, Will.I.Am and Jennifer Hudson as a mentor on The Voice

It was sparked by the X Factor flaw in 2015 when he jumped the gun as host and announced that Monica Michael would leave the show before the public poll was announced.

Olly filled in the agony he had caused and thought he had left it behind, only to reappear unexpectedly next year while he was doing his PhD.

"I've never fought on live television, I've always been very confident," he says. "But when I made that mistake on The X Factor, there was a terrible amount of abuse on the Internet, and the newspapers really came in for me.

"From then on, I was watched until the end of the series, and people were waiting for me to make another mistake, which was pretty tough for me.

    Olly Murs auditioned in 2009 for The X Factor, pictured and has an incredible career behind her
Olly Murs auditioned in 2009 for The X Factor, pictured and has an incredible career behind her

"I ended up with The X Factor and I thought," Do you know what? I want to return to the music again. "I did not know what effect she had on me. We suck it in with many things. We put it somewhere in our brains, forget it and try to move on, especially men. "

The incident, however, had haunted him again when he was at the end of 2016 with his 24-hour album on the road.

"I did a couple of live TV shows and was in a panic," he says. "I could not understand," Why am I so upset? Why do I get scared? Why am I worried about that? "

Olly struggled with this fear for a year until it came to a head fight when offering a job as a coach at The Voice triggered a series of panic attacks.

    Olly Murs separated in 2015 from Francesca Thomas
Olly Murs separated in 2015 from Francesca Thomas

"At first I was like," Yes, come on! "And then came a negative thought:" Why am I doing this? I can not do it What if I say something bad on TV again? What if I make a mistake?

"And I got sick, literally sick. I'm worried to the point where I was home for three or four days with sweat and a headache, and I never get sick. I felt really tired and lethargic and hot and my heart was … I had panic attacks.

"I thought about everything and my whole brain was a negativity. Something bad that could have happened at The Voice had already happened in my head: "I will not be able to →, I'll freeze, if they ask me a question, I will not be able to say what I feel I'm doing me there? How, what the hell? "

This extreme reaction to a celebration that was supposed to be celebrated turned out to be a wake-up call. Olly admitted that he needed help, and booked for therapy.

    Olly Murs and Caroline Flack hosted The X Factor the year Louisa Johnson, supervised by Rita Ora, won

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Olly Murs and Caroline Flack hosted The X Factor the year Louisa Johnson, supervised by Rita Ora, won

"I went and saw someone, and it was strange because as soon as I left the meeting, I felt better. So I went and saw her again and came out with an amazing feeling. Then I went to The Voice and shattered it.

"And it was all about it [X Factor] Error. I kept thinking, "I'll do it again," so it was easier for me to say no to things, to refuse things.

"I just had these few sessions – it did not get any worse – but it helped me understand why I felt that way and traced it back to 2015. I parked it instead of looking at it."

Olly hopes that by talking, he can encourage other sufferers to do the same. He also points out that mental health problems can not cause discrimination and affect anyone at any time.

    Olly Murs admits The Voice unleashed a series of panic attacks

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Olly Murs admits The Voice unleashed a series of panic attacks

"I sometimes think, when you're famous and you're a celebrity, people are quick:" Well, you have that, you have that. What are you worried about? "

"But being famous does not make you immune to feelings. I am a strong person. Jesus, you have to be strong in this industry, but that was my moment and I'm not ashamed I got help. I'm happy to talk about it because it affected me and I'm very confident There are actors!

"I know that there are many people who get through much worse than me. What I'm trying to read here is not afraid to talk about it. Will that happen again sometime in my life? Most likely, and I'll deal with it again. At least I know it now and can see it and I'm not afraid to talk to anyone. "

The new album released this week reflects this better mood. Olly returns to his feel-good pop, as in Ed Sheeran's first single moves with Snoop Dogg.

    Olly Murs says to be in the public eye

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Olly Murs says being in public "does not make you immune to feelings"

It's a double album and also includes a retrospective of his biggest hits, which hits the charts for almost a decade after finishing second in 2009 at The X Factor.

"The new stuff has returned to success. What got me to this point is the happy, happy music I've done in the past [the last album] 24 hours was probably a little bit more emotional. A little different. "

This was written in the wake of Olly after Francesca heartache and was a departure from what he had previously known.

"My head was full of regret. I'm full of guilt and wonder why I was not with the girl I wanted to be with more. I could have been a better friend. It was a strange place for me then, and it took me a long time to get over it and get back to where I am now.

    Olly's last album, which was much more emotional, came after his breakup with Francesca
Olly's last album, which was much more emotional, came after his breakup with Francesca

"So you know that I know it feels like a party, and obviously I'm chasing my fifth episode

No.1 album. Being in this position 10 years later and still being someone [they] I still like my music, I want in TV shows that you guys still want me to be in the magazine … I'll never take that for granted. "

Fabulous has shot and interviewed Olly many times over the years for our cover

firm favorite with everyone in the team. He is unerringly in a good mood, never asks a question and his considerable trust never turns into arrogance.

He is also in a tremendous spy and unbuttoning his shirt to show a slender, medium (blushing) six-pack.

"That was a lot of work!" He jokes. "Someone said the other day," You always take off your top, right? "And I said," Do you know what? I paid enough money and I worked my ass up! "

    Olly Murs insists that he works for his former boss Simon Cowell

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Olly Murs insists he has "nothing but love" for his former boss Simon Cowell

"Why can not I show the strange picture that I'm proud of my body? I feel good. It helped me a lot. "

Is that the best form he was in?

I would say that for the past year or two, this has been the best thing I've personally and physically felt training helps me mentally, it brings out any kind of aggression and distracts things, it's my own time. "

In addition to the album, there is a clothing collaboration with River Island, which starts next week. He has shot his second series of The Voice alongside Sir Tom Jones, will.i.am and Jennifer Hudson.

    Olly's new album You Know I Know was released on Friday
Olly's new album You Know I Know was released on Friday

"I just think that's something special with us. It's chemistry. This year feels even bigger and better for us because the personalities are together and fun. There were various offers on the table during the summer, but I decided to stay where I was. "

There were reports that Olly was offered £ 3 million to return to The X Factor as a judge before Robbie Williams took the job.

"Yes, I was asked to be a judge on the show. I have nothing but love for Simon Cowell and the boys, but I just did not want to leave The Voice. I felt like I was loyal to them and had a great time on the show. Simon has obviously brought Robbie and Louis Tomlinson and that's amazing. It was never one, "No, I'll never do that," it just was not the time for me. "

Next year he will go on an arena tour and end at Kingsholm Stadium in Gloucester. To become strong ten years after this first audition, he must surely be The X Factor's most sustainable export.

"Having 10 years in this industry, managing my life, caring for my family and having the best possible life for me – not just for myself, but having a family and children – that's amazing. "

He says he only intends to do things that make him happy from now on, and try to live in the present.

"I've changed the course of my destiny, and if I've learned anything in the last two years, I have to stop looking ahead and into the past. Live right now. Enjoy this moment. "

  • Olly's new album You Know I Know was released on Friday.
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