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Meghan Markle and Prince Harry# 39; s baby has not even been born, and it tells us so much about the nature of the monarchy.
As the Duchess of Sussex's birth date is approaching-or, more recently, no one knows-it is heavily speculated in what circumstances she is actually born of a son or a daughter, as the official announcement traditionally calls it.
But will it be precisely this announcement at the gates of Buckingham Palace? Where is the baby being taken to, in London or closer to Harry and Meghan's new residence in Windsor? In a hospital or at home, to hear how things have always been done Princess Anne and Princess Dianaavoided the norms of earlier generations?
Harry and Meghan have "made a personal decision to keep the plans private regarding their baby's arrival," a Buckingham Palace spokesman said earlier this month.
So that nobody remembers when Kate Middleton gave birth to each of her three children, with the process going from the explanation of the work to the first photograph with military precision. It felt like there was no room for error and luckily the babies were committed.
So that's the royal baby protocol we've been using for the last six years, and the wait-and-see behavior of Meghan's pregnancy, which is obviously the more normal of the two in real life, has not driven home just the different sensitivities between Kate and Meghan (Kate, if she did not really want to rock the boat, did not really have much to say), but how different were Harry and his older brother Prince WilliamHis life is – and has always been.
The schism, which seemed to have formed between the two, turned into a continental-scale division this week, when it was reported that Harry and Meghan could move to Africa after the birth of their baby – and the palace did not deny it.
"All future plans for The Duke and Duchess are speculative at the moment," a spokesman said. "No decisions have been made about future roles, and the Duke will continue to do so [fulfill] his role as Commonwealth Youth Ambassador. "
The fact that this idea even belongs to the possibilities of life for the couple, illustrates the different ways that Cambridge and Sussexes will continue, while William and Kate come closer and closer to the throne and Harry and Meghan go on their own.
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Which does not mean that Harry does not remain a beloved member of the family, but as the sixth in line to the throne, the heir has never felt less spared.
While the royal observers have differed in recent months as to how much the separation between Harry's and Wilhelm's households is really important for their personal relationship as brothers, some have doubled because of the feudal declarations, and others see it as a perfectly normal development since Harry is married and if he founds his own family, there is no doubt that steps will be taken to bridge the gap between the two.
Should this move to Africa, or a move to Canada, Australia, or any other far-flung region that was mentioned, be made, the official reason would be that Harry and Meghan continue to spread their philanthropic wings. But they will not be able to shake the underlying tale that they want to distance themselves as much as possible from the everyday life of the royal life, which for Harry brings the additional impairment of the work in Williams shadow.
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However, Harry signed up for a full-time donation not too long ago, with the full schedule of performances and directories of patronage. Not to mention that his family has always been important to him, and almost every person in the world he is close to lives in the UK.
On the other hand, Harry has personal relationships with Africa, with Meghan and without. In addition to his own charity in Lesotho, Princess Diana did some of her most memorable humanitarian work in the region where he met Nelson Mandelaand other anti-apartheid leaders, as well as AIDS patients and homeless youth in South Africa, and visits to landmine victims in Angola.
By the way, just before her death, Diana said she was thinking of moving to South Africa, where her brother Charles was living at the time to retire from public life.
Perhaps with the arrival of Meghan in his life, the home for Harry has become too much – the attention, the criticism, the expectations … or the lack thereof.
At the age of two, William and Harry spent their entire lives occupying the adjacent rungs on the Royal Ladder, until Williams's first child Prince George, was born.
Of course, her situation was not the case of an uncle stewing the arrival of his nephew (though George loves it The Lion King). Rather, Harry's descent from the ladder was an inevitability he'd accepted as a 28-year-old man as a fact of his life. Not to mention, nobody calls for a promotion, considering how the succession actually works.
"Is there anyone in the royal family who wants to be king or queen? I do not think so, but we will fulfill our duties at the right time," he told biographer Angela Levin in 2017.
At the same time he has a platform and wants to do good with it, as his mother has done in her too short life. "I have the feeling that there is only a small window if people are interested in me before [William’s kids] and I have to make the most of it, "he said.
The window burst open, taking half of the wall with it when he and Meghan got engaged, then had the most talked-about wedding on the planet in 2018, and five months later announced that a baby was in the world gone.
If not, Harry had known since marrying how much people's interest in him and Meghan had not diminished, and it's not likely to subside so quickly. Hence the recent measures to take control of her own narrative – leaving Kensington Palace, opening her own office, opening her own Instagram account, etc. They tried to push this further and wanted her own independent Sussex Hanging on shingles, but the queen decided that her office must remain under the umbrella of Buckingham Palace.
Apart from this small setback, Harry's distance from the throne – which will grow only when George and his siblings have children – allows him to consider a big step or private birth plan. The big brother goes the crown, but the little brother … the chance for a little bit more.
William and Kate could try to raise Prince George Princess Charlotte and Prince LouisAs normal as possible for as long as possible, but Harry and Meghan could actually do it with their child. (Relatively speaking, Grandma's house is Buckingham Palace … and Windsor Castle and Sandringham and Balmoral …)
Your baby will automatically be a gentleman or a lady, it is up to the queen to give something bigger, but there is a precedent if Harry and Meghan do not want their child to have a title at all. Harry's cousins Peter Phillips and Zara Tindall Thanks to Princess Anne's desire to give them a so-called regular life, they are without a title, but her grandmother is the queen and everything, and it worked out wonderfully for her.
And then there's William, on the narrow and narrow road to the throne.
"Prince William is not an institution, nor a soap star, nor a football hero, he's a boy: in the next few years he may become the most important and sometimes painful part of his life and he will grow up and become a man." Marching orders from the press as William, the future king, enrolled in 1995 in Eton. These words were incredibly forward-looking.
William and Harry have always been inextricably linked – as brothers, as children of a dysfunctional marriage and as victims of a grotesque tragedy that forever blurs their opinions of the media and makes them wonder what could have happened if Diana had lived.
When her mother died in 1997, William was 15 years old and Harry was two weeks before his 13th birthday. Days later, along with her father, grandfather and uncle, they walked behind their mother's casket toward Westminster Abbey. The funeral was watched by about 2.5 billion people, after which the brothers were taken away to Charles & # 39; s estate Highgrove before returning to their respective schools.
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Her two-year gap had been enough to make William a man more attuned to his mother's mood swings and more aware of his parents' breakup in 1992 when he was ten.
According to Tim Graham's 2008 biography WilhelmFriends said that Diana confided in her eldest son as if he were an adult, while Charles considered it inappropriate to talk to William about their marriage.
When they finally decided to split up, Diana visited William at his high school Ludgrove to discuss the matter with him.
"I went to school and put it to William, especially if you find someone you love in life, you have to hold on to it and take care of it, and if you were lucky enough to find someone who loved you, then you have to protect yourself, "she told Martin Bashir for the BBC panorama When asked how William got the message, she said, "He is a profound thinker, and we have not known how he went in for a few years, but I used it gently, without resentment or anger."
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Despite the separation, the still-married prince and the Princess of Wales appeared on important royal occasions as a family with their children.
Diana said to Bashir, "I mean, once or twice I've heard people say Dianas wants to destroy the monarchy," which confused me. Why should I destroy something my children are? Future?"
Charles and Diana did not officially divorce until 1996, and a year later Diana was gone. Her death sparked a national demonstration of emotion that was both touching and overwhelming for two boys who suddenly felt like everyone's concern.
Vowed to his dead sister, Charles Spencer In his laudatory speech at Diana's funeral, he said that he and the rest of her "blood family" would do anything to continue the imaginative and loving way in which you direct these two extraordinary young men so that their souls are not simply lost of duty and tradition, but can sing openly as you have planned. "
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All in all, Prince Charles educated two upstanding men with the help of the village, which is the royal family, including Queen Granny.
They both joined the military and learned to fly helicopters. They even sewed both of their wild oats-though William was oat faster than Harry's steely, slow-cooking varieties. And they were bound forever as princes, grandsons of the queen, who were condemned to a strange life even in the best of times.
But one was always free to sing than the other.
"It's normal little boys who are unlucky enough to attract a lot of attention," her father remarked in the 1980s.
As a 3-year-old, William was the hot-hearted troublemaker, jealous of the attention Baby had to Harry. As a serious-looking teenager, William developed a reputation for being more pragmatic and less spirited stable Brothers.
The strange Harry, sensitive but unpredictable like Diana, may have been in more trouble, but was also considered the contagious charm of the two. By the time Harry fussed around a pool table in a buffet, William, not a jealous toddler anymore, seemed content to let his brother's attention.
"Too much army and too little prince," Harry has characterized his wilder moments.
Ironically, the young and savage Harry got so much attention, he was angry with his brother for not being able to shoulder his fair share, especially because William was not exactly a saint.
"He drank too, if he should not have been, but because he was the heir, he got away with it, and Harry was the one who took the flak," Katie Nicholl, Vanity Fair"Royals correspondent," explained Julie Miller last year. "It took one of her helpers to actually get Harry to talk to William again because Harry was so angry."
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Overall, however, the two have balanced.
"You've got a truly trustworthy sibling that blends in very well with your character, beliefs, ideals and values, and things that Prince Harry undoubtedly associates with Prince William," said Jamie Lowther-Pinkerton Royy, biographer Penny Junor, for her 2014 book, Royy's private secretary for years Prince Harry: brother, soldier, son,
"[Harry] can apply various abilities and talents to some of the topics for which William as a monarch may not have the time or for whom the top man is not quite fit, but whoever is a man can do so. "
Of course, a lot of things have to happen before the Duke of Cambridge becomes king, all unpleasant.
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Not only does the longest reigning monarch in British history not have to be there, but William and Harry's own father must have gone or for some reason decided to hand the crown over to his eldest son – a move Prince Charles has no indication of given that he intends.
William himself has said that he does not try to think too much for these very pathological reasons. At the same time, however, he is expected to live his life as a future king, more energetic than ever, but also 93 years old Queen Elizabeth the second The list of their responsibilities will be further brightened for the future.
The 36-year-old may have allowed his missteps and Perkadillos – his father has already proven that you can take numerous steps during the journey, but must land on the same target – but ultimately he must think like a monarch.
And monarchs are judges.
As a "top man," William early received the memo that something larger than he required his cooperation. It took Harry longer to clear himself, not just romantically, and there was a good reason for that. While some people were uncomfortable approaching the rambunctious prince or raining on an exhausting-looking parade, William eventually got his little brother to seek advice on unresolved issues caused by her mother's death.
"My brother was a great blessing," Harry said in an interview with Bryony Gordon in 2017 Crazy world Podcast "He keeps saying," That's not right, that's not normal – you have to talk about things. It is not normal to think that nothing has affected you. "
William's intervention is something that Harry has always been grateful for, and their bond is deep – but that does not mean that it has not been able to shake through the kind of disagreements raging families have since the beginning of time.
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The party line was that William and Kate were just as excited as everyone else involved in Harry and Meghan's engagement. The media quickly called it "Fab Four," because what could have been better than fashionable double data that shaped the future of the British monarchy? William was Harry's best man, just as Harry did in 2011 for William. And then …
It was funny.
At first it was the sadly awaited rumors of a problem between Meghan and Kate, who seem to have an absolutely cordial, if inconspicuous, relationship. Despite the fact that Kate had been a three-headed mother since April 2018 and spent the summer on maternity leave from royal duties (which is unlike the future Queen of Meghans), Meghan was quite busy with her honeymoon and dating their brand new lives, their lack of time for mutual encounters provided endless food for sensational stories about the collapse of the Fab Four.
Lately, Harry and William have been at the heart of the reports of discord – though it's not as if their wives are still important supportive characters.
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"In the early stages of [Harry and Meghan’s] Before the engagement announcement, William talked to Harry and just wanted to make sure Harry knew what he was getting into. "Katie Nicholl reported just before Christmas." He expressed concern that things were moving too fast … I was When Harry brought Meghan back to the palace for the first time, he said he desperately asked for Kate's approval. He wanted Kate and Meghan to become strong friends and allies. I do not think it ever occurred to him that maybe he would not necessarily get it from his brother. "
Therefore, not all interventions are welcome.
"I think Harry felt he did not have the support of the one person he truly wanted it to be," Nicholl said.
In addition, she added, "I find it regrettable that Meghan and Kate really got caught in this crossfire because no case has dropped out, and the thought that two Duchesses are fighting simply makes more headlines than a break between brothers."
And yet, the alleged problems of the princes, who were all the more glaring and unexpected because they were preceded by a decade-long narrative that pushed them optimistically into a Diana-shaped form, have been in the headlines.
"It's really a bit sad," said a source Sunday Times The last weekend. "The women do not come out, the brothers fell out."
People He reported that on Easter Sunday, the princes did not speak to each other on the way to or from St. George's Chapel, though Harry was seen chatting with Kate, whom he always treated like a sister.
Meghan, who could go to work any minute, did not attend the service, whereupon the entire family had lunch in the town with the Queen at Windsor Castle.
But while they apparently did not go to egg hunt together a week ago, the brothers who wore a tuxedo seemed perfectly normal at the New York premiere Our planet, the latest documentary told by the national treasure David AttenboroughIn the London Natural History Museum. They participated in Prince Charles, the first trip of the trio without a spouse since April 2017.
Sources told that telegraph Recently, Charles and his boys are "closer than ever" – but it is also known that Charles is averse to drama in his golden years. And there could not have been a better time for him to bring his sons together for a happy night.
It's not that they do not need each other no matter how many royal expectations, time zones and ladder rungs lie between them.