Outsmarting Law and Religion for Love

So, if it’s the same person, he claims to be Catholic, but if it’s the same I admit Islam but have forgotten how to pray.”

Noryamin likens, if love is a flowing river, law and religion are dams that block its flow. The greater the love, the stronger the breaking power.

The volume of love, continued Noryamin, can go beyond the dam breaking or seeping through its tiny gaps. People with great love will do everything possible to marry the person they love.

“So they change religion because they have no choice,” he said.

The negative impact of regulations that do not accommodate human rights in the context of interfaith marriages also occurs in Kristianta Heri Saptono, 52, and his wife Yatmini, 42.

A decade ago, the two got married in an Islamic way. Kristianta, who is Catholic, admitted that she was forced to say two sentences of the creed—a condition for converting to Islam—in front of Islamic religious leaders in order to marry the woman he loves.

From the start, Kristianta and Yatmini agreed to stick to their respective religious beliefs after getting married. The two of them also planned to outsmart the marriage rules by getting married twice. First with an Islamic contract, a year later a Catholic marriage renewal.

“So for a year I did not attend communion, only attended mass. After the update, the new confession. The punishment is greetings Mary, how many times does our Father pray,” Kristianta told reporters secondsX last week.

Wisnu, 60, and Atik Yus, 48, had a similar experience. The two married in Islam in 1998. Vishnu, who is a Catholic, was forced to change his religion because of state regulations and the demands of his father-in-law, who wanted his son to marry in Islam.

At first Vishnu was still trying to follow the guidance of Islam. However, after his wife gave birth to their second child in 2002, Vishnu felt he could no longer lie to his conscience that he was a Catholic because he had embraced the religion since birth.

“So, if it’s the same person, he admit it Catholic, but if it’s with me admit it Islam but has forgotten how to pray,” explained Atik Yus to reporters secondsX last week.

Program Director of the Indonesian Conference on Religion and Peace (ICRP) Ahmad Nurcholish views that it is the state’s discriminatory regulations for interfaith couples that ultimately force these people to seem to be playing with religion.